Hermes,
I completely agree that personal taste and tolerance is a huge factor in your choice of bushings (and suspension upgrades), along with intended use, and road conditions in your area.
Are you adding any chassis stiffening to your E21 and E10 cars?
I know with my 911 another point of consideration was that a 40 year old car is nowhere near as stiff as a modern car, so without chassis modifications (such as roll cages, triangulation and gusseting) a lot of the flex in the car, is the car itself (even in a non-sunroof coupe like mine). And the stiffer I make the suspension, the more I'm making the chassis unibody act as the suspension and I'm not sure that's a good thing. Personally, I made the choice to go softer BECAUSE it's an older chassis.
Anyway, that's the neat thing about our car hobby - everyone has different approaches to doing things, and no one way is right - it's all about what's right for you!
orange260z
2009 Porsche Carrera S Coupe PDK/Sport Chrono Plus - Porsche Racing Green / Sand Beige Full Leather
1999 Miata - Brilliant Black/Tan Leather