I don't care about all that crap. You're driving a car, not working on a spreadsheet. I similarly disagree with how big phones have gotten and I'm using and hoarding original iPhone SEs.
All you need is simple onscreen cues. The only thing I would want is seamless integration between the phone and the car unit. Phones are better touch-input devices than built in screens in cars simply because of the ergonomics.
Does this go against what the car industry is doing? For the most part yes. Do I care/does it matter? No.
Here is Porsche's solution that I find very elegant:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=553l5ZrkyYU