JKO raises a good point about wheel build as well... I've not heard the best thing about VMRs in terms of this either. For what its worth, I've got the AG M359s...
Also, in terms of going square. I'm square right now... My specs are as follows...
18x8.5, ET35... The wheels aren't that wide, but its a fair amount of offset, especially up front. Overall, my wheels stick out 15mm more than stock in the back, and about 18mm up front, which is considerable. I'm running 245/35-18s all around, which is a good blend between the stock sizes. Considerable rubber up front, without being too little out back.
In terms of suspension, I'm running H&R springs up front, but otherwise, all stock. The car doesn't rub at all, but I've already rolled my fenders. Personally, I would do that if I were you, and shave the rear bumper bolts in the rear wheel wells. It'll help quite a bit.
Some of the choices you've posted sound pretty good, others will definitely need some rolling to make them fit, but all is possible.
As for the look, check out my sig for a link to my project thread. I just posted some updated pics, so check it out for an idea of what it'll look like.
Good luck.
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