konis should be on sale in march...
i think the konis are a great choice for your goals. here's what i would recommend:
- koni yellows from ground control; get their custom-valved rears, because they are less 'busy' and are also top-adjustable (otherwise you need to remove the rear shocks to make adjustments - personally, it's worth the extra money to me for this feature... time savings = money well-spent)
- rogue rear strut mounts
- BMW front strut reinforcement plates
- new swaybar bushings (poly works well)
- bimmerworld sealed spherical RTABs (quiet, OE bearing, allows rear trailing arm to articulate fully - they are sublime)
- Z4M FCABs are probably a good choice as they are more caster; i run AKG poly FCABs and i really like them, both performance and design)
- new rear outer control arm bushings (upper and lower); go for the OE upper 'bushings' (they are actually bearings) in both upper/lower locations (a la M3)
- also consider your rear diff mounts (rear is the most critical), and subframe mounts
that should make a pretty good driver. also, consider your alignment settings.
peter